Wait a minute!
How could that be?
You might ask…
“What about the new car?”
“I don’t have that.”
“…or, the fat bank account?”
“I don’t have that either.”
“And, what about the debt, or the few extra pounds I’m carrying?”
“Clearly, I don’t want either of those!”
Well, I’m here to tell you, that clearly, you do.
Otherwise, you wouldn’t have them.
And, on the flip side, if you really wanted that new car and that fat bank account, you would have them in your life right now.
I have to admit, the first time my coach introduced me to this concept, I found it a bit hard to swallow.
Then, upon further inquiry, I found the idea empowering and ultimately transformational.
Fully accepting this idea as reality, completely opened me up to the possibility of an even deeper examination of my life.
I first tried it on with a game of “what if”…
What if it’s true?
What if I do have everything I want, right now?
And, I mean everything … the good and the wonderful, as well as the irritating and the annoying.
I want it all!
And, those things I think I want. Well, turns out, I really don’t want them!
But, wait a minute! I really do want them, and I don’t want some of these other things!
So, I started looking deeper into what’s keeping the things I (I think) I want from coming into my life, and conversely, what’s keeping the things (I think) I don’t want, in my life.
Well, I’ll tell you what I came up with … that would be me!
You see, what we often have running in our lives is “contradicting intentions” and one intention tends to cancel out the other one.
Once we get absolutely clear on what we truly want in our lives, we can then take time to identify the intentions that may contradict or cancel out our efforts in which to create it.
Below, is an abbreviated version of a practice I use regularly with my coaching clients. I invite you to try it on for yourself:
First, identify what your ideal life looks like and write it down.
Second, write down what your life looks like today.
Third, identify what’s in the way of you having that “ideal life”.
The third step is the one that can get a little tricky. This is where you really want to do some ex-cavating. Look into your emotional ties to where your life is now. Is there a way of being that you’ve become comfortable with? Even if you think you’re sick of something (let’s use debt as an example) why do you think you still have it?
Check in to see if you have any limiting beliefs or judgments about people who have a lot of money, or what will it mean if you’re debt free? How is debt serving you now?
Really delve in. Find out why you have it and how it is serving you.
Is it keeping you safe? Is it protecting you from stepping outside your comfort zone? Are you so accustomed to it that you might even be addicted to it?
Check in. Get honest.
Do this for each and every aspect of your current life that you no longer want, and then do it for the things you don’t have, that you do want.
Find out what you might be afraid of, if you have the things you say you want.
A new job. That high-paying client. A perfect life partner. A new car. Your own house. A fit body.
Whatever it is for you.
Examine it thoroughly, and find out what’s really keeping you from what you truly want.
Identify those stale, limiting beliefs and update them! Refresh them into an empowering truth, so they’re no longer keeping you away from the life you’re meant to be living.
For example, some limiting beliefs might be: “I’ll have to work so hard to get out of debt” or “I’ll always be in debt” or “Living debt-free is impossible”
An empowering truth might be: “Getting out of debt is effortless and easy” or “If I choose to be, I can be debt-free” or “Living debt-free is for me”
Update your beliefs into positive statements to inspire yourself, and you will completely shift the trajectory of your life.
Keep in mind, these beliefs can be completely unconscious and will take some honest explora-tion to discover. These beliefs have often been with us since childhood. Take your time.
Understand this requires your willingness to admit YOU (and your beliefs) ARE THE REASON!
And, the only reason why you don’t have what you say you want in your life right now.
Having limiting and restricting beliefs about your current situation are only going to keep you in it.
After you realize this, you can start showing up differently with yourself and start taking positive steps toward creating your ideal life.
You’ll now be open to allowing it in.
All of it!
It’s all here. Just waiting for YOU!